A wake-up call
What’s going on? What is wrong?
I don’t want to bring guilt. La culpabilidad viene sola y ayuda poco.
I want to bring awareness. Awareness of where we are and where we are going. We are living through complicated times. We fight and work to get our children ahead, we deal with numerous problems on a daily basis, many situations overcome us and we do what we can, which is a lot! much!
The media invade us with bad news and many refer to our children; school failure, bullying, demotivation, disoriented adolescents personally and professionally, new addictions that are added to those that unfortunately we already know… Almost all of us know a case in our circle of friends or family.
What is happening? What makes today’s young people need to consume “likes” on social networks to feel good? Who is most fooled? They? Or when we look the other way and repeat to ourselves “everyone does it for kids”? Who, other than her parents, is to instill in the adolescent that she is to love herself, that she deserves to be happy even if a group does not consider her the “popular girl” of the school?
Educating our children is a hard task, it is not easy, it is a long-distance race in which we often do not obtain results in the short term, which causes discouragement. At the same time, educating our children is the most transcendent task we can do in this life, the most wonderful. The most beautiful. There is nothing comparable to enjoying our children. If not, is it worth it?
- What legacy do we want to leave them?
- How do we want to be remembered?
- What do we do as parents to prevent those situations?
- How are we being formed to play the most important role, BEING A FATHER, BEING A MOTHER?
- What do we do to learn to enjoy our children?
Let’s be honest with ourselves. Let’s stop making excuses. Excuses are fine but we don’t even believe them when we say them. It is something that has more to do with priorities and commitment.
I recognize that I am overweight, I can reassure myself (I have done it many times) excusing myself with lack of time or any other explanation. He would be deceiving me. It has to do with my priorities and my commitment. Exercise is not my priority. I’m more committed to the couch than the gym. It’s okay. I decide freely but with conscience and honesty. It’s not easy, it’s hard to admit it, although being more of an aesthetic problem than a health problem, I allow myself to do so.
However. What happens when we talk about our children? Is it the same? If they are our absolute priority and we fill our mouths with these words… What are we really committed to? What do we do to honor this commitment? Are we being coherent?
I started writing with a wake-up call and I want to end with a call to action.
What can parents do?
We can do a lot, we can do “EVERYTHING”.
If we want children who are fighters, empathetic, emotionally balanced, positive, capable, proactive who are not victims of their circumstances… Let’s be clear that we can only do it by leading by example. So we need parents, empathetic, capable, positive, proactive and fighters. Parents who know how to accept them, who give them the space they need to be who they are, who reinforce, inspire, support, who give them wings to develop all their powers and capacities.
We can train ourselves to grow as people and give the best of ourselves as parents to our children.
Are you up for this commitment?
M. Ángeles Jové
